Can We Truly Dictate the Course of Our Lives?

I remember being astonished to discover that studies indicate around 90 to 95% of our actions, reactions, thoughts, beliefs, emotions and behaviours are orchestrated by our sub-conscious. 🧠 So our early parental influence, schooling, friends, health and security experiences ‘can’ control us forever! Wow. (Notice I said ‘can’).

So we may think we are tired, busy, that we found something or someone better to pursue – but these states of mind (and body) are most likely coming from the sub-conscious and a place of fear to prevent us starting something, meeting someone, having down time to think, or staying in the same relationship where we’d need to open up. On a professional level, it can prevent us starting a business, writing a book, going for a new job and achieving success.

So, without delving into the ‘how did we get this way’ in this short blog, what can we do about it?

💊There’s a lot. You can read self-growth, have hypnosis, be ruthless in your habits and thinking, have counselling and coaching, do EMDR, Eutaptics, CBT and more.

BUT, here’s the clincher – your subconscious may even prevent or distract you from doing THOSE things for the same reasons!

So we’re on the hamster wheel! But here’s some practical hacks I have learned that work for me and keep me a positive person (mostly – I am human)!

You see the subconscious can’t tell the difference between a lie and the truth. If you tell a fib and call in sick, quite often you will end up being or getting sick. If you say you fail at diets, well guess what? So our job is to trick our subconscious into believing we are healthy, happy, successful and replete.

1. The very last thoughts of the night should be positive. Even if you had what you perceive as a very bad day, will you really be thinking about what happened on your death bed. No? Then visualise a shutter coming down on the day and repeat a few times as you are falling asleep ‘I will have a GREAT day tomorrow’. This is when the subconscious is most receptive to messages – so make sure it’s a good one! Don’t go ‘oh no tomorrow is Monday’, as much as you are tempted. Instead go ‘tomorrow is Monday and I will give hard thought to changing my life’. Repeat this. Every. Night. 👌

2. 💩 During the day, when shit happens, again ponder if you’ll remember it on your deathbed – and if not – 5 second rule – think about it for only that long and slam the visual shutter down. Don’t let the little things pile up and guide you into the belief you have had the ‘worst day’. Seriously – unless you are dying or a family member is, or you are in a war torn country – we don’t even know what the ‘worst day’ is!

3. Look for glimmers. We all know what triggers are. The opposite is a glimmer. Little moments of enlightenment or joy. 🌈 Tiny ones. An animal, the light, the smell, the feeling, a touch, a smile. Let those pile up inside you instead!

4. When someone asks how you are, wait a moment and unless you qualify for Point 2, say you are ‘great’! (And no, I do not mean don’t reach out for help if you really really are NOT great and heed help). We are so used to immediately looking for a reason we aren’t ‘great’. If you are breathing, walking, talking, not fearful, warm and fed – then you are largely great. 👈

5. Similarly when you wake in the morning in the Theta stage. That drowsy period as you come to the surface – do not immediately start thinking of all the stuff involved in your day. Instead be strong and again say ‘I am going to have a great day’, or ‘I am feeling a lot better today’. (Science KNOWS that positive people have higher immunity, less accidents, live longer and are more productive).

6. ✍️ Put sticky notes around the place reminding you and say the words out loud so that the subconscious hears it as ‘fact’. I am ‘feeling so well today’. You’ve heard of the Law of Attraction? Yes it can be touted as a bit of woo-woo, but at it’s root it’s simply like attracts like. (Magnets right? It’s science – our thoughts are energy and are measurable). Affirmations are not magic and Prince or Princess Charming won’t appear just out of thin air by saying it – BUT if you remind yourself continually you WILL meet a partner – your subconscious will help you go places, chat to new people, join apps and take positive action. Because you have TOLD it you will meet someone.

There’s dozens more – too many to list here. Share these tips with your friends, family and housemates. Because the more we surround ourselves with like-minded people the easier all this becomes as we develop similar habits and perceptions. Especially do it with your kids!

If you’d like to delve deeper into this and explore other methods and more personalised hacks, you can chat to me here.

Now, go and have a GREAT day! Every single moment, you are ONLY one thought away from deciding to change your life! 💥⌛⏰ Liz x